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Notes on the work, in long form.

Essays and reflections from the Core Relationships team on attachment, the therapy process, and what actually changes when relationship work goes well.
  • Is the Therapist–Client Relationship Real?
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Is the Therapist–Client Relationship Real?

    Is the Therapist–Client Relationship Real? How secure connection in therapy shapes relationships beyond the therapy room There’s a question that quietly lives in the minds of almost everyone who sits…

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  • Stop Being So Nice
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Stop Being So Nice

    Most of us learned very early that being “nice” was a good thing. Nice meant being thoughtful. Nice meant being helpful. Nice meant noticing other people’s needs and making sure no one felt left out…

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  • The High-Functioning Person
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    The High-Functioning Person

    We get a lot of calls from people who feel like something is off, but can’t quite explain why. Because on the surface, they’re functioning well. Their lives are full. They’re showing up. They’re…

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  • What Comes First: Children or Marriage
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    What Comes First: Children or Marriage

    Life is moving faster than ever. Everything seems instant these days—except personal growth. Unfortunately, we can’t snap our fingers and undo long-standing patterns, ingrained dynamics, or unwanted…

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  • Burning the Darkness Away
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Burning the Darkness Away

    I opened Zusha’s Instagram story on Sunday and stopped scrolling. There was a picture of their candles, glowing softly, with one short caption underneath: Burning the darkness away. I felt moved. I…

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  • Two people moving away from each other with a broken heart between them
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    The “E” Word

    Let’s talk about the “E” word—the one almost no one says out loud, even though it’s everywhere. Our friends, extended family members, coworkers, neighbors, even the woman in front of us at the…

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  • Woman holding a cup of coffee
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Saying No for a Year of Yes

    This time of year, the theme of “newness” is everywhere— new year, new me. Renewal, rejuvenation, and reset are powerful, but I’ve found that some of the most transformative changes don’t come from…

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  • Man in a suit whose head dissolves into smoke
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Superhuman

    Unfortunately, there are far too many causes and campaigns for those who are suffering on every level. We could cry endless tears over our personal, communal, and national tragedies, which never seem…

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  • A dust storm sweeping across the desert
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Is the Dust Really Settled?

    If I could rename Cheshvan, I’d call it Burnout Month. The whirlwind of the Chagim is finally behind us. The sukkah has been taken down, the endless meals have been eaten, and the unstructured time…

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  • Man in a therapy session
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    So, What Really Happens in Therapy?

    People often talk about therapy with a mix of curiosity and confusion. It’s become something people either swear by or completely avoid . Some imagine it as an emotional deep dive that only certain…

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  • Mother working at a laptop while holding her child
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Dear Moms: You’re Carrying Too Much

    It’s 10:37 p.m. The night before school starts. You’re still peeling stickers off brand-new notebooks, hunting down a missing pair of navy socks, and trying to figure out how your third grader’s…

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  • When Parenting Stirs Old Wounds
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    When Parenting Stirs Old Wounds

    As summer winds down, many of us welcome the return of routine— alarm clocks, carpools, and bedtimes that actually stick. The structure can feel like a relief after the unstructured days of summer…

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  • Smooth stones stacked in a balanced pile
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Emotionally Healthy ≠ Happy

    We’re all chasing happiness. We want it for ourselves, our kids, our marriages, our homes. We want a life that feels good : peaceful, joyful, settled. We try to create that feeling with a full…

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  • Hand-lettered graphic with the words ‘I’m working on myself’
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Teshuva: From the Inside Out

    Elul carries a certain electricity. The air feels charged with urgency and possibility. We all know the messaging this time of year: it’s time to grow, to change, to take on big Kabbalos , to prove…

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  • Woman holding a garment bag
    Bassy Schwartz, LMFT

    Copy, Paste, Compare: The Trap We Fall Into

    You walk into the children’s clothing store, excited to pick out a few outfits for the new school year and the upcoming holidays. But before long, the excitement dips. You look around and notice how…

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